Identity, Ideology, Reality: The Only Level I Actually Debate On

Before I debate anyone, I run a quick test. Is the debate based on identity, ideology, or reality? Two are dead ends. Only one of these foundations opens the way for further conversation, understanding, and connection. I’d like to believe that every conversation or “debate” is an opportunity to learn, but that isnt the case for everyone, so this rubric helps me decide when a debate or “conversation” is worth my time.  Level One: Identity If someone leads with identity, I am out. Take abortion. Someone says, "This affects me as a Black woman." That is where it ends for…

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Proven, What Is Possible May Not Be Probable -5 Essential Differences You Need to Know

An argument broke out on my timeline the other day. Somebody posted research on outcomes for kids from two-parent homes, and the replies filled up with the same sentence, over and over: "I was raised by a single mother, and I turned out fine." Hundreds of people, all making the same move. And the wild part is, every one of them was right. They did turn out fine. They also proved absolutely nothing about the research, because they were answering a question no one asked. That thread is one of the best examples of what of one of the most…

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Proven, What Is Possible May Not Be Probable -5 Essential Differences You Need to Know

An argument broke out on my timeline the other day. Somebody posted research on outcomes for kids from two-parent homes, and the replies filled up with the same sentence, over and over: "I was raised by a single mother, and I turned out fine." Hundreds of people, all making the same move. And the wild part is, every one of them was right. They did turn out fine. They also proved absolutely nothing about the research, because they were answering a question no one asked. That thread is one of the best examples of what of one of the most…

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